The world we live in is fast evolving, it’s a generation where everyone is in each other’s business, and as trendy or cool as everyone thinks it is we all know how uncomfortable it can be sometimes or maybe most times.

So what do we do on days that these intuitions are not flying with us, how do we filter people’s words before they get to our hearts and hit us in all the wrong places?

How do we keep people’s opinions as opinions?

1. We must understand that people’s opinions of us are really just what they are opinions, they are necessarily not true, most times people just project their own issues on you.

2. Know that another person’s opinion is often based not on your beliefs and behavior but on theirs. What’s good for them may be bad for you, and vice versa. Be who you want to be from your own perspective.

3. Pay attention to the things that trigger you, deal with them and build a thick skin because let’s face it, the world is full of abusers and they would go to any length to figure out what to use against you. So to do you a favor, be one step ahead.

4. Trash the idea of trying to please everyone because guess what? You can’t, no one can. So the earlier you start to choose your safe space and mental health first above all else the better for you and everyone else.

5. Remember that people’s opinions will always change. The majority of the opinion we as humans have come from the knowledge we have and no one has a good opinion of something they are ignorant about.

Ultimately people’s opinion or idea of thing changes the more they learn about it.

6. Keep track of your heart. You definitely know yourself more than anyone who has an opinion of you and whether you like it or not, the one person you are always going to have to guide your back forever is you.

So be careful to check your heart and be sure you are taking the necessary feedbacks while discharging negative energy. Honest constructive feedback is good.