Having sex for the first time for most people is a very special thing and they want it to be treated as such. While some people don’t care too much about it, some do.
Regardless, your first-time experience opens you up to a different world on its own, and your first experience can either bring you closer to your partner or make you doubt your compatibility.
Your first sex experience not properly worked through can be very painful, but it will also give you a deeper understanding of your body. This is why there are some important things you need to take into consideration before going ahead with it.
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Be prepared.
I know some people would advise that you just do it because it would come to you naturally, but I disagree. I’m of the opinion that good preparation would help you keep your expectations in check.
You’ll know what to expect and not expect, and you won’t be caught unaware if some situations present themselves. You can also protect yourself from sexual diseases by asking questions ahead of time, reading books, and so on.
Make sure it’s consensual.
When both parties agree to have sex, that comes with two people wanting to please themselves, and it’s a pleasurable one.
Make sure your partner is in agreement with what is about to happen, consider how they might be feeling, and also voice out your reservations if you have any.
And if the other party becomes uncomfortable while having sex, please respect their wishes.
Good pair.
Foreplay and conversation Talk about the things that turn you on before you have sex for the first time, and if something hurts, say it! Be patient with yourself, and ask your partner to do the same.
Before trying penetration, they touch, kiss, and engage in various sexual acts to stimulate each other. You’ll be more “in the mood,” and your body will react appropriately, lubricating itself in preparation for the next phase.
Protection
Protection is a must! It is probably the most important aspect of the entire first-time experience! Not only does it protect you from unplanned pregnancies, but it also protects you from STDs.
Condoms, birth control pills, or a diaphragm are all options. Condoms are the best and most convenient alternative for protecting yourself from STDs and preventing pregnancy. Purchase it ahead of time and keep it on hand.
Feel sexy?
Being felt as sexy and desirable by our partner is an important factor in sexual pleasure. Meaning, you have to do something that makes you feel a little hotter and more confident before you have sex.
You could take a nice shower before sex, put on some comfortable sexy underwear, or listen to sexual music. Feel free to try anything that would make you feel more attractive and more sexual.
Final Note
When you have your first sex, you may experience a range of emotions, including happiness, excitement, confusion, or a combination of these.
Tell your boyfriend what you require, and then find out what he requires as well.
Give yourself what you need, whether it’s a cuddle, a discussion, or even time alone, and make sure your partner has it as well. Try to stick to this and remember that practice makes perfect when it comes to sex.
