Almost 53% of the female population has a vibrator. And it’s not just single women who own these pocket rockets. According to another poll, 50% of married women use vibrators.
(It’s also pretty much a given that most men engage in a healthy dose of self-love when they get the opportunity!) so, considering this, along with the fact that most adults masturbate, why would any reasonable husband not be ok with their wife using a sex toy in their absence?
Sex toys can be potent instruments for explosive orgasms; especially for busy, stressed, or low-libido women, a vibrator drives arousal into high gear. Essentially, orgasms can make her feel better physically, mentally, and emotionally.
So, not only will she be less stressed, but you’ll also be doing her body image a massive favour. This can influence her behaviour towards herself, others and improve her sexual functioning in general… it’s a win-win.
So yes, I would be ok with this! Why would I not want my wife to feel empowered and just great overall? Isn’t that what love is all about?
So…
I am not mentioning my name as you can read it…
It all started when I was newly married to my husband, and we went on honeymoon. It was a weird feeling for letting someone another look at your nude body, you know…
I asked him how to start with, so he asked me for giving him a blowjob.
I slowly took it in my mouth and started sucking upon it, it was something salty and bitter for the first time I felt…
I am not going in deep…
So when it came time for sex, I had vaginal sex, I didn’t know about anal that time, only I knew that it hurts.
So when having vaginal sex for the first time, he was as soon as he was rubbing his penis on my vagina, my clitoris, I was feeling horny, and slowly did he put his penis inside my vagina, it hurt at the same time it was a pleasurable experience I ever had in my lifetime…
I bled as it was my first time…
At first, he was slowly pushing and pulling, after 5 or 10 minutes he started doing it very speedily, it was, something I experienced that couldn’t be explained by words, you need to feel that. After 30 mins or so he poured it inside me…
It felt like I was urinating inside me…
It was warm and thick, something of it was drooling outside my vagina and with some blood cells…
I think I dozed off because when I opened my eyes I found it was morning, we were both lying naked on the bed, and I didn’t know why I again wanted to have sex, even if it hurts my vagina I couldn’t resist myself from asking him when we’re going to have our next session…
So according to me, vaginal sex feels great, once you have it your mind says let’s have more…
And so on…
I am a very open-minded lady.
And each of my relatives knows it. And somehow after having sex for the first time on our honeymoon I somehow became addicted to it.
As my husband often remained out of the city and rarely came home on international holidays or certain occasions I get a very less chance of having him.
So I searched up on YouTube and found I could buy a hyper-realistic human Dildo, I mean a dildo with just the same properties as a human penis.
I asked my husband if he gives me consent to buy them…
And he agreed, he sent me some money and I bought them.
I didn’t want only one it would be boring so I bought them in different sizes…
Here are the pictures of what I bought…
Afterwards, there was some money shortage so I stopped collecting anymore…
I used these dildoes for a Vaginal purpose.
Buy one day I had an idea of using them as anal and watched some videos suggesting anal is the best sex.
So I wanted to experience it.
So one day I lubricated the bigger ones in the 2nd image and tried putting them in my anus.
I kept it on my bed and started to sit on it. And it slid a few centimetres after which it started hurting. I still didn’t stop and I pushed the dildo further in my Anal hole until I started bleeding.
Even if I was bleeding when I took the whole inside me it felt great, I felt like I have been wasting my time using the dildoes for vaginal purposes.
I just loved the feeling when it slides inside me. Tearing my anal hole and getting into it.
I pushed and pulled it inside and outside with me still bleeding but I just couldn’t stop myself from doing that. After 10 Mins of doing so, I was at last satisfied.
So from then on, I started slowly using the bigger ones and I bled every day.
And now I can take the largest dildo of my collection, fully inside me…
That is the first one in the image is the largest and now I can take it fully inside my anus and my vagina too…
Not a husband but commenting on my experience in my last long term relationship where sex toys played a part, husbands listen up and let her use those toys!
My travelling salesman boyfriend had no experience with sex toys before our relationship. I’m sure I shocked him the first time I used a vibrator in front of him at the beginning of the relationship so he knew I used them from the get-go.
We went shopping together several times at the adult store throughout the relationship and explored all kinds of fun things.
I shared with him a memory of one of our sexual encounters that I regularly used when playing with my toys in his absence so he knew when I was doing this I was thinking of him.
I always fantasized about him (we had a mind-blowing sex life together so this was easy). By sharing what we both thought about there was no threat to the relationship and we both thought of each other as it was a highly fulfilling relationship on that score.
Because we were long-distance and he travelled we FaceTimed regularly. Eventually, I began using my toys while he pleasured himself too.
We had small tripods to hold the iPhones (don’t try this without one lol). Eventually, he got his toy (a sleeve) and brought it on his travels as well (boy could I tell you some funny TSA stories about that!).
Because we were long distance we both regularly pleasured ourselves together over FaceTime or alone but when I knew he would be coming to town I wouldn’t for days before as it’s easy to get less sensitive if you get used to the heavy vibration of a toy and coupling with him and the orgasms that followed were always preferable to something self-manufactured even if you are doing it together via video.
This man is also the love of my life so I am sure made a difference, we had very open communication and a deep emotional bond as well so felt comfortable in exposing ourselves to each other in this way. I would highly recommend it, husbands, let her play and join in when you can.
Hell, I buy her toys! She can use them whenever she wants. She uses them with me and or without me. She is my wife and I want her to feel free to make herself happy without guilt.
Trust me the more sexually free she is the more you will both benefit. Only someone insecure would have an issue with this and that alone will dampen your relationship. Get a grip on yourself (Pun intended).
My husband bought me one, as he is often not home due to work. When it died, I didn’t buy another one because I’m a bit afraid that, because my husband doesn’t vibrate, I might become less sensitive to his ministrations when he is with me.
I used to get mad if my husband “took care of himself” when I was not getting my own needs met by him. Now, we finally live alone and can have much more intimate interactions, so it bothers me not at all if he self-pleasures once in a while.
I think it’s easier for a partner not to like the idea of their lover taking care of their own sexual needs, with toys or without, when they feel like their lover isn’t taking care of them
Yes! In our 37 years of marriage, we have purchased dozens of sex toys for her use and enjoyment anytime she is in the mood.
It turns me on to think of her fantasizing while pleasuring herself with her toy of choice while I am away or not in bed with her yet.
There is nothing quite like getting a video of her pleasuring herself with a dildo, talking through her fantasy while I am away on a trip.
She often uses her toys while we are together, and loves to be able to experience her two men DP fantasy with the assistance of her dildo of choice. As she got older and discovered her G Spot, her dildos have become an important part of sexual activity.
Husbands, are you so insecure as to forbid your wife to use a sex toy with or without you? Do you deliberately break any device she may own even though you bought it for her?
Then you must be one of my exes Listen, I paid for the testosterone shots… I paid for the doctor’s visits. And I suffered in agony as you denied me for 9 weeks at a time and called me a whore for wanting to be held by you.
Dude, I put in work. It wasn’t my fault your shit didn’t work. I mean, I’m a motivated and dedicated worker. Should have found the dude you always wanted. Made life easier. Good riddance.
Omg. Good riddance.
