Should this be a debate? This question regularly pops up in discussions about relationships.
We understand the tag on men as providers, and the most independent of women would love to be pampered without having to ask.
The level of importance of this question depends on what one believes.
Are you a woman who believes your partner has to fund your lifestyle once you start dating and in turn, you do everything domestic, just like back in the day?
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Are you dating a man who believes he has to be the sole provider of your needs since you both are together?
If there is a conflict of interest, then there is a problem, as it is a turn off for some men when you ask them for money. They would rather, prefer to give you out of their own free will.
The question of how soon, if it so happens that you can ask him for money. You cannot go asking for money when you just started dating, what if he were not in the picture, would you not find a way to sort yourself out?
If you are in a serious relationship, we know most women will want to ask for money even when it is not needed, just to confirm if he is a giver or not.
To be frank, a person who cannot give out of the little they have now may not be able to give when they have much more. If you begin to notice he is not a giver, my dear sister, begin to ask as soon as you can, if you can cope.
You might want to raise this discussion early on in your relationship if you believe a man should be the sole provider. That way, he understands what he is up for.
Are you one to ask for money as soon as you start having sex? This might be a defining factor in your relationship. Tagging it has a business transaction. If you want so much more, you might have to stop that and have sex only because you enjoy it and want it with your partner.
To be real, if you are not all out to ‘chop his money, you just know when to ask for money when you need it. There is a level of comfortability you have with someone before you begin to ask them for certain things.
Wait till you get to that level. When you do get there, do not forget to be available when he needs you to.
