You’re considered a virgin if you have never had sex. But because sex has different meanings for different people, it’s not as simple as that.
Most people think that losing their virginity entails penis into vagina intercourse, but that’s not always the case most time. For those who aren’t cis-gendered or straight, the definition of losing their virginity may be oral or anal sex, among other things.
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An anonymous writer has this to share
”I’m in my first serious relationship with my boyfriend at the moment, we’ve been going out properly, I like him, and he’s really into me, but I’ve told him I’m a virgin and I don’t want to rush things.
The thing is, I’m 19, so I feel as if I shouldn’t be, you know, so scared about it because it’s high time it happened, and he’s a bit older and a bit more experienced, and I just feel…so scared about the inevitable.
We’re touching each other and stuff but we never had sex. But I think I will want to have sex with him soon, but I’m terrified. The main thing I’m worried about is that it’ll hurt. I’m a bit of a wimp! And the second thing is that I’m worried he’ll think I’m rubbish.
So please, reassure me? Girls, did your first time hurt? For those who lost their virginity in serious relationships, how long did you wait before you had sex for the first time?”
Losing one’s virginity can be a very scary experience for some. Having sex for the very first time is really a big deal and it is completely normal to be nervous and scared.
The truth is you can only imagine what it will look like but you don’t know beyond what you’ve been taught or what you hear people say.
Everyone’s sexual experiences are different and you can’t judge if yours would be good or bad on someone’s encounter.
Some people feel mild soreness while others even bleed after their first time. Some also notice changes in their emotions while some experience physical changes.
You must experience sex without setting high expectations if not you may end up being disappointed, your first time may not be as romantic and magical as it’s been painted to be. This should not ruin your sex life or dictate your future sex life.
Common fears you might experience about losing your virginity
- You become attached to the guy for a long time even if he treats you wrong
- You become less valuable or respectable to others once they know you’re not a virgin
- Missing being a virgin.
- Losing standards for myself and becoming reckless.
- Been addicted to sex.
- Guilty feeling about the circumstances in which I lost it, and become worse if he leaves you.
Before losing your virginity to anyone kindly inform them that you are a virgin which will make the situation less uncomfortable for the both of you after the sex.
And lastly, practice safe sex.
