Almost everyone lies from time to time, some lie out of consideration to either protect someone else’s feelings or keep their relationship flowing. For whatever reason know that excessive lies can destruct your relationship with your partner.
How can you tell when your partner is lying? Sighting a lair is not easy and will take time but it’s possible. Your own suspicious can get in the way of getting to the truth and realization of things.
You need to pay attention to signs, things you are being told and what you can do if you think your partner is lying to you.
Source: The Marriage Foundation
Here are five signs you are being lied to
1. They are acting differently
On a baseline, it is easy to detect a lie, the way they usually behave and act before, during and after the lies. Variations from that baseline indicate that someone is under stress, possibly because they are being deceptive.
Look for changes in their attitude and behaviour. For example, they keep bowing out of plans more often or even acting more distant lately.
Some even try to clean their parts by overloading you with too many affections in ways that seem odd. Whatever it may be, if you notice that your partner is acting strange, that may be a sign that something is up.
2. They are defensive
One obvious way you tell that your partner is lying is when they become overly defensive. They overreact to questions and try to over-explain things even when it’s not necessary.
For example, if you ask them who they were on the phone with and they respond with hostility eg why are you asking me such questions or something like I can’t believe you Don’t trust me. It’s a sign that they are lying or hiding something from you.
3. Their stories don’t t add up
They say something today and say something different the next day. They keep changing the story in other to keep up with their lies and not get caught.
When you begin to notice disparities in the things they tell you, there is a bog possibly that you are being lied to. If you think about all the things they’ve said carefully you may end up seeing the truth.
4. Their body language says a lot.
If you see any sudden changes in your partner’s body language that indicates that they are hiding something from you.
Like when they stop making eye contact with you when they talk, this may mean that they are lying to you about something or if they make more eye contact than usual this is also a sign that something isn’t right.
5. Lack of communication
A good relationship is built on good communication. So if your partner suddenly stops communicating with you, this may be a sign that they are lying.
They make plans without you or even spend more time away from home than they usually do without reaching out to you.
They are either seeing someone else or lying to you about important things.
On a final note
If you realize that your partner is lying to you, it’s fine to call them out on their bull shit and make them take responsibility for their deceit. And it’s okay to share your feelings at that moment too, make them understand that their lying and deception hurt you so much.
If you can’t forgive them immediately, let them understand that it may take time for you to finally let go and start trusting them again. And you would appreciate if they can be more honest moving forward.
