Tola and I have been friends for ages, I mean we’ve been friends for close to 10 years now excluding our period of engagement up to when we finally got married. One of the questions we have often received from strangers and loved ones are how did we do it?
How do we get along so well? The truth is we fight too, we have misunderstandings and definitely, we have our worse days, after all, we are humans.
However with a little bit of intentionality here and there we are able to scale through our not-so-good days. So when I say intentionality what do I mean?
I am simply talking about
Honesty: this is the key to any long-lasting relationship. To keep your relationship strong, you should be able to be open and honest. Tola and I promised to always be honest no matter how difficult the situation might be.
To play the honest card, you must then learn to be forgiving because trust me if you don’t have a forgiving heart, honesty in your relationship can be a hard pill to swallow.
Communication: talking, chitchat, etc. is good but clear-cut communication can never be overemphasized. Know that you can talk and not communicate, so ensure you are both on the same page at all times or meet each other halfway.
Make time for each other: If you are a couple; make time for romance, for friends schedule a game night or movie night. Whatever relationship it is you are trying to build bonding. Time is a must!!
Be interested in each other passion: When I first met Tola, I knew absolutely nothing about architecture neither was my husband interested in fashion.
In fact, his fashion was terrible but then fast forwards to now we both vet each other’s proposal or assignment before it goes out and we both work on each other’s project as time will allow.
You don’t necessarily have to be an expert in it but show genuine interest in the life of the other party. Trust me this will create reasons for more bonding time.
Sincerely speaking my husband and I are still a work in progress. We are not perfect but we make efforts daily to bring those little seemingly unimportant things to spice up our relationship. This we truly believe, if we can do it, YOU TOO CAN.
