Moving in with your partner is a serious life-changing decision and it should be made for the right reasons. 

Things to consider before moving in with your partner. 

1. What are your reasons for wanting to move in?

The first thing to consider before deciding to move in with your boyfriend is if you are moving in together for the right reasons.

Are your reasons for moving in together because you feel lonely or because you always want to be close to him or you want to save money on rent and living expenses. 

This is not to say that the reasons listed above are not valid but you should brainstorm why before you do so.

If you are moving in with him to get to know him better, to find out if you guys can coexist together in terms of living habits, these are all good reasons.

Whatever the reason it may be, just make sure you are making the right decisions for yourself and your relationship. 

2. Can you deal with your partner’s mess? 

Your partner might be a messy person who finds it hard to clean up after themselves. Living with them won’t make them tidy, it’s who they are and won’t change because you moved in with them. 

You might just end up annoying each other unless you decide to make compromises and accept them. This is a conversation you would need to have with each other if you intend to take your relationship to the next level.

3. Are you financially prepared?

Another significant question you should ask is if you are financially prepared. Living with your boyfriend requires you to pay half of the rent and household expenses. Just like if you decide to move out on your own. 

Also, be sure that your boyfriend is responsible and financially reliable too and will be able to pay his part of the bills.

4. Are you willing to give up your independence?

Another question to ask is if this is the right time you want to live with someone else. Cohabiting means giving up some form of your movement and decision-making cause now you need to put your partner into consideration. 

They need to be pretty in tune with your coming and going. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that but you should know if it’s going to be an issue for you and if it is, maybe you should reconsider your decision.

5 Benefits of moving in with your partner

 1. You get to know your partner better.

Living with someone 24/7 allows you to know them better. Figure out what they like and dislike and also if you can live with them. This way you get to know their living habits and if your relationship will last and result in marriage. 

2. A Deeper understanding of your partner 

Living together in a relationship creates a deeper bonding between you and your partner. You tend to appreciate and respect your partner more. Their struggle and what they bring to the table in your relationship. 

Respect for each other and mutual trust is naturally more in a live-in relationship. There is an extra effort in making each other feel special and loved.  

3. Financial Management 

One of the biggest advantages of living together is that you get to figure out how to manage finances among yourself. You know how to allocate your fund to your living expenses. Living together helps you split the cost of everything comfortable with one another.

4. Freedom to end things. 

Once you realize that the relationship isn’t working for you anymore and that you might need to end the relationship. Living together allows you to opt out of the relationship without the drama of divorce.

While it may be a tough decision to part ways, at least you know that you made effort to make your relationship work.

5. You Get to test the waters. 

One of the primary benefits of moving with your partners is that it offers a chance to test your compatibility with your partner.

Most of us behave well and look great when on a date but we become different people when we live together. 

This helps in making an informed decision when it comes to marriage. If there is a lack of compatibility it’s better to find that out before getting deeper.

Moving in with your partner before marriage is still considered taboo in some parts of Africa. But when you think about it practically, it’s essential to live together at least once before you get married.

Marriage isn’t an easy journey, it requires effort to make it work. And a living relationship allows you to figure out what makes marriage works.