For those of you who are still in the dark about what a side chick is, it is only fair that I go into more detail. A wife or main girlfriend is accompanied by a side chick, just as plantain is used to complement rice or beans.
Stay with me here; your “main chick” (also known as the spouse or main girlfriend) shouldn’t feel so bad because you are only seeking something missing in your relationship.
After all, a man might not have needed to find a side chick if they were performing their duties.
I will get started by saying that, as we all know, being a side chick is more complex than it sounds and that, to become one, you must be knowledgeable about what you are doing.
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Stay tuned as I provide nine tips to excel in your role and help you with your situation. This is also good for any main chick reading this, as it provides them with a sneak glimpse at how the other lady has control over your boyfriend.
How to be a side chick
1. ZERO DRAMA (KNOW YOUR ROLE)
This is crucial. Drama is never beneficial to a side chick’s market. Because he missed your birthday (is he your mother?), you can’t create conflicts or get furious. Darling, you cannot walk up at the church waiting for your cue when the minister says,
“Anybody knows why these two..” when you have heard around town that he is about to marry his major girlfriend this coming weekend. more, NO DRAMA!
2. ZERO JEALOUSY
This is an obvious one. If you want to maintain the relationship, you can’t ask questions like, “Where were you?” “Why didn’t you call me?”
“Who were you on the phone with?” if you are a side chick. Keep your jealousy at bay; these do not side chick inquiries. Your inquiries should convey enjoyment, adventure, and fulfillment without causing any worry.
3. STOP DREAMING
You can’t start sketching castles in the sky just because he transported you on his private aircraft to Monaco for a lavish weekend.
Avoid being naive or desperate. Don’t let him think you’re going to start deciphering the messages he sends saying, “I want you” or “I want to leave her for you,” and keep your hopes to yourself.
4. DO NOT ASK FOR MONEY
He will pay you money; therefore, there is no question in my mind about this (unless he is a miser, which means you need to move on). Please do not send him any signals from gold diggers. To get what you want without simply asking for it takes expertise and patience.
5. LEAVE HIM AS THE BOSS
Unfortunately, you have to let him take the initiative because he has an affair. He will summon you if he needs to see you. Don’t try to contact or text him late at night because his “main chick” might see it, and things might become bad.
6. PUT INTERESTING THINGS IN
When he is around, keep the discussion lively. The major duty of a side chick is to maintain an atmosphere of fun and excitement. Astonish him. Keep things interesting by doing whatever it takes, as long as it feels natural.
Just be careful not to overreact by turning up unannounced since he claimed the entire family was on vacation.
7. ALWAYS DRESS TO IMPRESS
You must always be on point if you want to be a side girl. You cannot spend out with him while wearing sweats because you are not his “primary.” Maintain a healthy weight, avoid getting overweight, and always wear the newest clothing styles.
8. AVOID TALKING THE TALK
Yes, I know that things can become quite tense, and you may become emotional, daydreaming about being in paradise or believing that you are the “primary” girlfriend when you are not.
Don’t talk when you have the impulse to do so! Asking him questions like “What are we doing?” or “Where is this going?” is inappropriate. Such inquiries will make him quickly withdraw. You both clearly understand what you are doing,
9. LET HIM BREATHE
We acknowledge that all girls require a reasonable amount of attention, but you cannot insist that he give his wife or primary chick, as the case may be the same level of attention. Leave him alone!
Keep yourself occupied by going out with your girlfriends, watching a movie, or pursuing another man. Never assume that he will show up by your side whenever you need him.
When he doesn’t call for days because he is enjoying his fifth wedding anniversary with his wife and children, you will save yourself the money you would have spent on painkillers and therapy sessions if you knew that.
We might all have different perspectives about side girlfriends. We shouldn’t lose sight of the fact that some people can’t help but love the people they do, and who are we to say whether or not their sentiments are valid?
