Sex in a romantic relationship is nothing short of what we call normal in this dispensation, some might like to refer to it as making love but we all know what it is really – having sex.
The question is sex outside of marriage a deal-breaker is one of those questions that cannot take in one answer, the answer is dependent on many variables especially the opinion and stand of one’s partner.
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We must first state the fact that we are all sexual beings hardwired for intimacy, and sex is one of the greatest ways we consummate intimacy, so whether sex before marriage is a deal-breaker for you or not there is no avoiding the urge to want to be sexually intimate with your partner.
So to give you the privilege to informatively decide whether sex before marriage is a deal-breaker for you or not below are opinions from both sides of the coin telling you why they think their side of the argument is right.
By the way, this article is not to dictate which side is right or wrong, we are simply here to lay out all information on the table.
Why sex before marriage shouldn’t be a dealbreaker;
It helps you discover early sexual issues you or your partner might have before marriage, thereby helping you to make an informed decision about the person you want to marry.
That is if it is a case that cannot be resolved, you can decide to commit to the relationship irrespective of the circumstance or you both decide to break the relationship and move on with your lives respectively.
Premarital sex opens you up to your sexual orientation. What works for you may not work for who you are currently in a relationship with so why wait for marriage to realize that you are not sexually compatible.
Save yourself the horror of marriage sexual problems by finding out now.
If you are one of those who believe that knowing the size of your partner’s private part is essential to how you feel and respond to them sexually then you might want to ‘do the do’ before you say ‘I do’.
Why sex before marriage should be a deal-breaker?
Asides from the fact that most religion especially the Christian religion is against sex before marriage, it has been scientifically proven that couples who practice celibacy, who chose to wait until marriage before having sex possess a higher potential of the last longer because;
They have higher relationship satisfaction and they communicate better with each other because they spend more time conversing and understanding each other, since the time they would have spent engaging in intercourse when they are together is added to the times they spent being with and truly seeing one another.
These things are also seen in people who are sexually active but more pronounced before marriage.
Sex is a way of consummating intimacy; this means that every time you have sex with your partner you create a bond.
So imagine having multiples partners over time that you’ve had sex with, this simply means you have bonded with every single one but the way this works is for every bond that gets broken the more you lose the ability to genuinely or strongly bond with the next person.
Waiting to have sex after the marriage allows you to make a quality decision on who to marry without being clouded by the chemistry connection that comes from sex.
It also helps you build a quality emotional connection from a place of true and thorough knowledge of your partner’s personality.
